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Secrets of the Motherworld


Feb 4, 2020

“I fell in love with a man who had a child from a previous marriage. When we were dating, he told me that his child would always come first and showed me a photo of her that he always kept with him. I quickly answered that that was only natural. Of course, his child should come first.

His daughter was a beautiful, queenly teenager when we married, and I was insecure around her. Initially, I tried to "cook" my way to her heart, but she rebelled against those dishes even when -- or especially when -- she liked them. I didn't know what was wrong and neither did she, but we also kept close by talking, walking, shopping, doing nonsense together. Over time, we developed a relationship that I cherish.

Although I treasure our relationship and my role in her life, it makes me wistful at times to be reminded that I will never be for her what her mother is. We will never have that natural ease, that unspoken connection. And I think to myself, will I ever forgive myself for you not being mine?”

 

Stella mentions Nuala O Faoláin writing about how the role of the stepmother from her book ‘Almost There’:  https://www.amazon.com/Almost-There-Nuala-OFaolain/dp/1573222410